Handling Social Anxiety. “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak up and remove all doubt,” is a saying attributed to Abraham Lincoln. This appears to be the negative belief of people who become very nervous in social situations and are convinced that they will say something foolish, thereby justifying their feelings of social ineptitude.
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Managing and Treating Depression. People who seek out therapists for help with depression and anxiety have often struggled with these feelings on their own for long periods of time. The decision to seek help may come as a result of feeling frustrated and helpless to resolve a particular issue or because of a chronic unhappiness with their lives.
Relieving Anxiety By Identifying Negative Thinking: People in psychotherapy or counseling can be helped to see that their problems may be traceable to anxiety-inducing beliefs caused by irrational thought patterns. This awareness can stimulate a productive therapeutic effort leading to meaningful emotional and behavioral change.
Why We’re Often Our Own Worst Enemy: After several tries, Jim, age 25, was finally accepted into a prestigious bank management program. Once in the program, however, Jim found it “difficult” to make time to study. Assignments were handed in late, if even completed, and Jim developed severe headaches, all of which eventually led to his being the only trainee to leave the program…just days before he would have been forced to withdraw.
Making Sense of Things That Don’t Add Up: Emily was excited after her blind date with Walt. More than any man she had met in years, he was charming, funny, successful, and seemed as taken with her as she was with him. They had much in common and both indicated their pleasure in finally meeting someone with whom they wished to spend more than twenty minutes. After a polite first kiss in the lobby of her apartment building, he promised to call within a few days to arrange their next date. That was the last Emily ever heard from Walt.
How Grief Goes Wrong: There are many different kinds of grief. Uncomplicated or normal grief is characterized by a number of feelings, beliefs and behaviors that most people experience after a significant loss. Those who suffer a loss of a loved one usually experience sadness, and often guilt and self-reproach. Anxiety, fatigue, helplessness, and shock are also common components of a normal grief reaction. The intensity and extent of these reactions vary, but none of them are viewed as pathological.
Contrasting Dependency Levels Can Impair Relationships: For many, the term “dependency” connotes weakness and an inability or unwillingness to rely on one’s self. It is a term often used interchangeably with the word “needy,” which, most would agree, is not generally used in a positive or complimentary way. Others see their dependency needs as a healthy part of their attachment to cherished loved ones upon whom they rely and whose reliance upon them they welcome.
Different people have different ways of handling mistakes and failure. Some people, who make a mistake or experience failure of one kind or another, will see to it that they avoid the situation or circumstance in which it occurred. Others respond by ensuring that they learn something from the experience and try, where possible not to repeat it.