People who suffer from shyness or social anxiety are probably not enjoying life as much as possible. They feel nervous and unsure too much of the time and look to avoid much-feared rejection rather than looking for ways to have satisfying social experiences. Shyness is extremely common. Around 40 percent of the population complains about problems with shyness. Almost everyone has felt shy or socially anxious at some point in life, making shyness a nearly universal experience.
Shyness is characterized by the desire to present a positive image in a social situation, combined with the fear that a negative or undesirable impression will be made. People who struggle with shyness have concerns about how they will be perceived by others. This leads them to withdraw from social situations in order to protect themselves. Rather than risk embarrassment and rejection, shy people would rather make no impression at all and avoid social situations where these dreaded moments might occur. Sadly, this avoidance interferes with their efforts to achieve the very things they desire most: good friends, intimacy, feelings of social competence and social success.