Several years ago, John S. DaVanzo, the Clerk of the Town of North Hempstead in New York, and as the designated marriage officer, provided all couples obtaining a marriage license with his “Rules for a Happy Marriage.” His rules are on point, humorously presented, and quite consistent with many of the observations, ideas, and recommendations described in several of my essays in my book.
- Never both be angry at the same time.
- Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
- If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.
- If you have to criticize, do it lovingly.
- Never bring up mistakes of the past.
- Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
- Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
- At least once every day try to say one kind or complimentary thing to your life’s partner.
- When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.
- It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong is the one who does the most talking.