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Therapist Selection Questionnaire

by Richard B. Joelson, DSW.  Category: Miscellaneous. 

  1. I feel comfortable with the therapist
  2. The therapist seems comfortable with me
  3. The therapist is casual and informal rather than stiff and formal
  4. The therapist does not treat me as if I am sick, defective, and about to fall apart
  5. The therapist is flexible and open to new ideas rather than pursuing one point of view
  6. The therapist has a good sense of humor and a pleasant disposition
  7. The therapist is willing to tell me how (s)he feels about me
  8. The therapist admits limitations and does not pretend to know things (s)he doesn’t know
  9. The therapist is very willing to acknowledge being wrong and apologizes for making errors or for being inconsiderate, instead of justifying the behavior
  10. The therapist answers direct questions rather than simply asking me what I think. If (s)he chooses not to answer questions of  a personal nature for sound clinical reasons, these reasons are explained to me so that I can understand and appreciate them
  11. The therapist occasionally reveals things about herself or himself, either spontaneously or in response to my inquiries, when appropriate
  12. The therapist acts as if (s)he is my consultant rather than the manager of my life
  13. The therapist encourages differences of opinion rather than telling me that I am resisting if I disagree with him or her
  14. The things that the therapist says make sense to me
  15. In general, my contacts with the therapist lead to my feeling more hopeful and having higher self-esteem
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