When I think it's appropriate and the timing is right, I have introduced the idea of marital dating and have marveled at some of their reactions. They sound something like the following: "that's a better oxymoron than 'jumbo shrimp!'" or "hey, Dr. J., you must have gone to therapy school on Pluto...couldn't have been this planet!" or "that's funny! Got any more good jokes?!"
With these couples, once we get beyond the 'shock' and the 'humor', a serious exploration of the idea often occurs and some clients are intrigued by the possibility of reactivating the spirit of their courtship and consider having what one couple called "a revival." It is always interesting to observe the excitement as two people begin to imagine what "dating" might consist of at this point in their relationship... (marital dating discussions have been conducted with couples who have been together for as long as 38 years and for as short a time as one year).