Many couples, unfortunately, wait to seek help when it is the 'last stop' before the lawyer's office. Some, in fact, come to therapy having already made contact with an attorney to explore separation and divorce. Often, but certainly not always, this might make marital treatment a "too little - too late" experience for one or both parties. Other couples might contact a therapist at the first signs of early difficulty in their relationship when one or both realize that the time to address the issues is sooner, rather than later, and before destructive patterns of relating become entrenched and therefore harder to modify.
Working with couples has always been challenging and a fascinating laboratory in which to observe and participate in the complex dynamic of two, often very different people, trying to work out differences and develop greater closeness in an effort to restore a once healthier relationship.